Question:
I been doing some reading and i think i might have it. I think i am going to get tested to be sure but it would make sense.
usually have odd behaviors as a result of social anxiety. Aspies cling to familiar routines and places; they like old comfortable clothes. They are unaware of teen norms and fashions, which means they are often excluded from peer groups. They often have no friends their age yet can relate well to adults. They may excel at certain subjects like mathematics and programming but fail at those that require emotional intelligence, such as literature and political science.
They usually do not express empathy or affection, and do not understand other people’s needs for that. Relationships exhaust them mentally because the rules of social interaction are intuitive and illogical.
I also find it hard to talk about my feelings and do not show emotion and hardly open up. it has been hard to keep friends and stuff.
I had a social anxiety but it not as bad now.
I have a hard time with eye contact and as a kid i had bad hand eye skills . I like to be alone a lot and feel all alone in this world some times.
girl have been into me but i had a hard time being affectionate some times but i try.
a lack of spontaneous seeking to share enjoyment, interest or achievements with other people, (e.g. by a lack of showing, bringing, or pointing out objects of interest to other people)
this is all me some times just not all the time.
ummmmm?
As long as you don’t get fixated on stuff like the history of Belgium or san-serifs vs. serifs, and at least try to engage in stuff she likes without alluding to stuff you like. Then it will work out.
many girls look for differnt things in a guy
some are so picky than others
me personally, i would date a guy with aspenger’s
as long as he talks to me about everything and anything and tells me what’s going on truthfully
Yes. But it might take you a while if you’re still a teen.
You will need someone who’s educated about the condition, which may be something that’s got to be done by yourself.
Good luck.
Some of the smartest people out there have aspergers. I don’t think it would be a problem for any girl to date someone with the disability. I wouldn’t ask someone out and in the same sentence tell them what you are thinking though. Go out, date, and once you get to know the person, tell them about how you think you might have something. If she’s the right girl, she won’t care. I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone–
I hope so. I’m 14 and I strongly believe I have a mild case of aspergers. I have not been tested, but I have almost all the symptoms you have, except I can share my feelings when I need to. Other than that I am just like you. I know how you feel. So far I have not asked anyone out, nor have I been asked out, but I honestly don’t care. It’s not like it matters. Personally, I wouldn’t mind being single, but that’s just me. If you’re willing to look into a dating website for aspies, here’s a link: http://www.aspieaffection.com/ Hope this helps. Email me if you need someone to offer advice. The best advice often comes from actual aspies, like me.
Of course. From what I understand about Asperger syndrome, a lot of the problems assossiated with it are quite common in everyday people. You may not be very good at expressing affection but if you put in a sincere effort you should have no problem finding someone. Most decent women won’t have a problem with you just because you like a quiet, secure, predictable life. It’s much better than the guy who dissapears all night and stumbles home at 4. Norms and fashions only serve to make you see an old photo and shake you head thinking “How did I think that looked good?” I think most people would prefer someone who can think for themselves rather than conform to fads. And believe me opening up is hard for a lot of people and while it may drive your partner nuts they won’t hate you for it. As long as you show appreciation for them caring about you, i think they’ll accept that you’d rather not talk about what’s bothering you. At least it’s worked so far for me and i have most if not all of the same problems.
Furthermore be very sure that you do get tested before you worry too much about it. Most people you meet would believe they suffer from it but do not, especially those of us that just don’t/didn’t fit in with people in school. If you have it, it won’t ruin your life in any way. If you don’t, that won’t either. Good luck. Let’s hope we’re all lucky enough to find someone.